Pregnancy Labor Isn’t Loved By All
Don’t worry that you’re all alone in this boat. Pregnancy labor and delivery isn’t fun for every mother. Some conquer it like Wonder Woman while others vow to never go down that road again. It’s all personal and relative, and no feelings are wrong or right … just your own!
I ran into a patient of mine who recently delivered her first baby. She couldn’t wait to show her off. “She’s finally here!” She was so sweet and told me how much she loved having me as her sonographer every week. I love it! And, of course, her baby was absolutely beautiful.
She took a minute to vent about her L&D experience, of which she was NOT a fan. She said, “Nobody told me what it was REALLY going to be like. I’m never doing this again!” I laughed and expressed I was not a fan of mine, either, but that it’s different for everyone. Some people actually call it easy or loved the experience. I guess this is why some beloved souls do the pregnancy thing over and over! Well, that and they must either have really good babies or the patience of a saint. God bless the fruitful mothers, but my personal limit was two.
Moreover, our kids are incredibly expensive, right? After diapers, extra-curricular activities, cars, insurance, and college, it all adds up to a luxury house in the end!
But I digress … I love motherhood, love my kids, and I wouldn’t trade them for a thing in this world. Change that. Between the ages of two and four, I did consider either selling my younger daughter on the black market or investing in duct tape for her mouth. Alas, I opted for the duct tape, and (what do ya know?!) she became a hard-working, compassionate, and loving young woman.
You can read her blog post here!
And for those of you who don’t know me, said daughter would be laughing hysterically at this last comment. She can attest to the absence of duct tape for discipline–though it would have been effective. If what goes around comes around, I have no doubt she’ll need it for her own kids one day!
We go through pregnancy for ourselves, our spouses, and to create that family unit for ourselves. It’s the love we put in and the love we get back that makes it worthwhile. And when our kids are bad, we stick them in a corner because we sure can’t shove them back where they came from … not that we’d want that, either.
I sometimes say I’ve made my contribution to Mother Earth with my twice-inhabited uterus. For my patient and many like her, it’s one and done! So many of my 3rd Tri patients begin to express anxiety at the thought of labor. It’s understandable. Every labor can be entirely different from your prior experiences, and we always fear the unknown. My advice to them?
Nature has a unique way of preparing us to take on the unknowns of labor ~
the complete exhaustion of pregnancy!
Well, that and finally seeing our babies in living color.
Happy and healthy labor and delivery, Everyone!
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